Getting Engaged (Janey)

This is the same thing I posted in the BARK...but just for the record. :)

I wanted to share my exciting news for those who weren’t in town when I made my announcement…I’m engaged!

A few days before Grandma’s passing Warner told me to save Saturday and Sunday (Jan 29-30) because he was going to take me down to St. George so we could stay with Nick and Stef (so he could propose.) He wanted to make the proposal special; he knows I LOVE St. George so he was going to propose down there. However, after Grandma passed away we knew we wouldn’t be going out of town because of the funeral and burial. I was a little bummed because I was anxious to get engaged. I debated all week long whether or not I wanted Warner to propose over the weekend. I thought it might be kind of weird to get engaged right after you had a funeral and I wanted the focus to stay on Grandma. I also thought it would be fun to go out of town to get engaged….but that would have meant waiting another week. However, I thought how much fun it would be to get engaged while so much family was still in town. I was torn! I finally decided to tell Warner that he could propose whenever he wanted as long as he did it after all the funeral stuff was over.

So here’s how he did it:

My family got home from Idaho on Saturday around 7:30. I figured he was going to do it that night because he asked me to go down to his house in Lehi. He answered the door with a dozen red roses in his hand. I went in to his house and waited by his door while put his shoes on. When we were ready to go his mom suggested she take a picture before we headed out the door (yeah, he was totally going to propose tonight….we never take pictures before we go on our dates). He took me to Outback Steakhouse and we enjoyed a yummy dinner and ended it with taking a picture. During the dinner he kept texting his brother, so I thought that maybe his brother was setting something special up somewhere. But by the end of the meal he hadn’t suggested we go anywhere, so I asked if we should just go back to his house and watch a movie. I was surprised when he agreed to this…maybe we weren’t getting engaged. As we drove to his house I figured that maybe his mom had set something special up at their house. But I was wrong again…everything was normal. The only kind of weird thing was that when we walked in, his mom hurried and turned off the TV and ran back into her bedroom. Normally she would sit and chit-chat with us. Now it was just the two of us in his family room. I sat down on the couch and got all snuggled-up under the blanket. Warner put in the movie we had decided on and then sat down next to me. Normally he’ll move close and cuddle with me under the blanket, but he seemed so stiff and when I asked him to move closer because I was freezing, he only slightly moved. Then, he looked at the screen and started saying things like, “What’s this? What in the heck?” And at that point I could see he had made a movie. He made a short little slide show of pictures of us/me and ten reasons why he loved me. I suddenly understood why he was so adamant about taking pictures that night. Most of the pictures he had of us were pretty lame and not very good. But, it was a sweet little slide show and at the end he got down on one knee and proposed.

So there you have it! It was short and sweet. I am so grateful that he proposed that weekend. This way I will always feel like Grandma Bassett was a part of it. I decided that Grandma’s marriage advice to me was what Sid shared in his talk about ‘taking care of your marriage, and the Lord will take care of the rest.’ I loved that I was able to tell so many of you in person at Jill and Kyle’s. I wished I would have had a camera when you all shouted with excitement. I felt so special and could feel your love. Thanks for being such an amazing family!

I will send a Picasa link of pictures soon!

Oh, and the date is Thursday, June 30^th.

Loves.

Janey

Max's Bark letter About Grandma....CARRY ON, CARRY ON!!!

Hey family!
This week has been a hard week, but a happy week with all of the family being here. The funeral was amazing and I could just feel the spirit of the Lord overwhelmingly. I could feel Grandma and Grandpa Bassett there in that chapel as we sang our songs and throughout the entire meeting, I knew they were watching over us, as I still know today. What a great family we have! I'm so happy to have the blessing of such a wonderful family that can still love eachother and be united, even with a hard loss like this.
When Grandma passed away, I was able to be in the hospital that night to say my goodbyes. I felt the spirit and felt at peace that grandma was in a better place. She is happy now! When I got home from the hospital, even though it was about 1 in the morning and I had school the next day, I pulled out my journal and began writting my thoughts and feelings about Grandma and about what I had felt that night. I want to share with you guys some of the things I wrote down.

"Today has been a sad, but happy day. Tears have been shed, prayers have been said and hugs and kisses have gone around from person to person. Grandma Bassett passed away at 10:45 p.m. today on sunday, January 23 2011. Janey and I drove to the hospital at about 2:00 where we saw her. She seemed like she was doing great but I could tell that she was going through many pains. Lots of people were there to say their hello's and possibly their goodbyes, no one was quite sure what was going to happen. Robbie & Christina and their family were there with Richie & Carolyn along with Jill. Mom and Dad were there. Blaine and Kristi came with their kids. Gwen had drawn a cute nativity picture for Grandma. Janey and Warner were there. Rosey was there. Bruce, Jeanie, Bob, Ashley and Brooke were all there. Aunt Stephanie was there with Remington. Uncle Curt was there and Elise came a little later with Kyle. After a while, people had left because of restless kids, etc. Later on, Tanner was there. Liz & Kent came with Chelsea and Ashley. It was so amazing to be with all of the family that was there in the hospital. I could just feel the spirit so strongly. It never left! Grandma brought the family "all together again." I love Grandma Bassett so much! She taught me things that I will never forget. She taught me how to Carry On, she taught me to smile because smiling will always brighten up someone's day. She taught me to pray whenever I need help because Heavenly Father is ALWAYS there for us. She taught me the importance of family. She taught me how to cook caramel popcorn. She taught me how to lead the music. She taught me how to "move it, move it." She helped me to pursue my singing and piano talents and the great importance of sharing our talents with everyone. She taught me that the love of our Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ is unimaginable! We can't even comprehend how much they love us, and how much they want us to reutrn to live with them again. Grandma Bassett taught me all this plus so much more! It's impossible to count! She was one of the very best influences in my life. I have a bunch of fun memories with Grandma. Everytime I saw her sweet, smiling face I would give her a hug and just that simple hug brightened up my entire day. I'll never forget Camp Grandma's when we would march around every morning. I'll never forget Family Reunions and always looking forward to what Grandma, the Senior with Class, wanted us to do each day. I'll never forget dancing around singing "I like to move it move it." I'll never forget playing Bumble Boogie for her over and over again just trying to impress her more and more each time and promising her that I would never forget that song and that I would share it with all who wanted to hear. I'll never forget being Grandma's Homecoming date at Bassett Academy where she taught me how to waltz. I'll never forget when I was able to exscort Grandma down the aisle at Joe and Tannith's wedding. Most of all, I'll never forget the sweet person she was with her strong testimony and her good example. Grandma Bassett has taught me how to be happy in life and how to gain a true testimony. I know she's with her family on the other side, happy as can be!! I know we will all see her again someday, but we've got to live how she would want us all to; to live righteously. I love Grandma Bassett with all of my heart. I know we will see her again, and until then..........CARRY ON, CARRY ON!!"