Re: Love from Mom

Speaking of the ugly public.  My boss told today about his 19 year old daughter who is a waitress at a restaurant in Provo (Little Italy, down by the Provo City Center Temple).  He told us that one couple came in with another 'foreign' couple to eat prior to going to the temple.  As the evening went on, the two women got angrier and angrier at the service.  The daughter kept trying to help them enjoy their dinner, but the more she tried, the angrier they got.  Finally she came up to see if she could help, and the foreigner put a bunch of food in her mouth and.... gasp... spit it out all over her.  All over her face, her hair the front of her clothes.  She was so agast, she didn't know what to say, but to make it back into the bathroom to clean up.  The manager got word and went out to talk to the table.  They got in a shouting match.  As the couples got up to leave (and not pay) his daughter was standing by the cashier and said, "I'm sorry, I hope you enjoy the temple."  And the woman (not the foreigner) said, "We can't now, because of you!"  Can you believe it.  I would be so crushed.  But then a half hour later, an old curmudgeon of a patron came in with a chip on his shoulder.  She tried to take care of him, but half way through the meal he took ahold of the plate, held it out, and dropped it on the floor so it splattered and shattered all over the tile floor.  She ran to get bussers to come help clean it up, and the manager came out and another shouting match ensured.  2 other customers just got up and left the restaurant without paying.  I couldn't believe it.  The nice end of the story was that one of BYU's basketball players was on a doubledate and saw both incidents and called over the manager to tell him what a great waitress she had been.  Another person called over the manager and gave him $100 and asked him to split it with the wiatresses who had been criticized and abused.  So there are still good people.  But I've got to say, I wonder about the future of civility.

On Mon, Feb 29, 2016 at 8:23 PM Nick Bassett <nick.w.bassett@gmail.com> wrote:

What a great letter mom, and thanks again for dinner! One of these Sunday's we might be able to actually stick around for a bit rather than rush out the door.

As for angry patients, we are moving to a world where physician compensation is based on how patients rate them. There are a hundred reasons why doctors don't like it, but probably a longer list of why it's an important thing to consider. Anyway, some people are just grumpy, and like grandma winder would always remind us...maybe they just aren't having a great day.

We love love love all of your new furniture! That beautiful book shelf as we walk in is awesome complimented by your gorgeous table. Again, one of these days when we have a minute over there, I'll take down the measurements and see what we can wrangle.

Sure love you!

Nick

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> On Feb 29, 2016, at 7:44 AM, Kristi Bassett <kristi.bassett@gmail.com> wrote:
>
> Way fun letter!
>
> I remember in college that Stef Stott and I had basically the exact same job - reception, office and aide duties. Mine was at a physical therapy office and hers in a heart clinic. I LOVED my job! I loved the people and the experience was fantastic. Stef thought it was the most miserable job on the planet. We talked a lot about it and realized the only real difference was the attitude of our patients- all of hers were old and grumpy and having serious health issues. I had a lot of old patients too, but their situation wasn't nearly as dire. I also had a lot of athletes and just random people. Anyway, I know that the attitude of patients makes a huge difference and I'm sorry she was upset at you. I can guarantee it was more a reflection of what is going on in her life than anything that happened at therapy that day.
>
> I still remember our grouchiest patient- George Proctor. He was ancient and hadn't walked in years. He was so grumpy as he came in week after week, but I still remember the day he took his first step in years. We all gathered around and watched, t was such a miracle and we were all so darn proud of that ornery old man. Ha!
>
> Anyway, fun to catch up on your week. I keep waiting for a letter from max to fill us in on his life, but I'm glad I get glimpses of it from you!
>
> Love,
> Kris
>
>> On Feb 29, 2016, at 12:11 AM, Wendy Bassett <wendy.bassett@gmail.com> wrote:
>>
>> Dear Family,
>>
>> I wanted to write a quick one before I head to bed this Sunday night.  We just said goodbye to Max and Ashley and Rosey who stayed after the family dinner to play games.  Ashley killed us in her first time playing Yatzee.  She got two Yatzees!
>>
>> I sure enjoyed my Sabbath.  After our block meetings I headed down to Provo to hear Max speak in his stake conference.  He also sang in the stake choir which was made up primarily of his ward and was conducted by his bishop's wife.  The music was amazing and inspiring, as well as Max's 5-minute talk (and he kept it to 5 minutes). He brought a beautiful Spirit into the meeting.  And nice Ashley saved me a place close to the front where I had a perfect view of Max.  I loved every minute!  After the conference I got to meet Max's bishop and wife and they both went on and on about what a wonderful guy Max is, how he is certainly "going places" and how he accepts every assignment with a cheerful heart.  A mother's payday!
>>
>> We had a family dinner with all 11 of us around the table.  We missed Warner who had to work, and Blaine and Kristi's gang.  Poor little Ned doesn't get a nap on Sunday and had a meltdown at the dinner table which prompted us later to put on home videos of Rosey at that age.  Ashley was a good sport to watch (did she have a choice?). It was the famous one where Rosey bursts into tears and says "everyone laughed, even Blaine!"  So fun.  Then Ashley asked to watch Janey and Warner's wedding video and that brought back great memories, too.
>>
>> A couple of highlights for the week:
>>
>> -I went out to lunch with Janalee Wynn and laughed and laughed.  We use to visit all the time and I just had not talked to her forever.  I loved it.
>>
>> -Made a "Have A Good Trip" box of homemade Oreos and snickerdoodle cookies for the Yorgs.  They left Friday for their big San Diego Trip with their kids and grandkids.
>>
>> -Got my hair cut from Gwen Yorgason.
>>
>> -Had a patient get really mad at me at work.  Flora is her name.  So happy to hear she was heading out of town and I won't be seeing her this week. She's a moody one.
>>
>> -Took a big load of stuff to DI.  That felt good.
>>
>> -Got a visit from my blind guy, as in the guy who is fixing my blinds!  He is going to replace the three in the dining area.  The headrails won't match the rest of the room since they don't make those head rails anymore.  But at this point I just want to take my sheet down.  I just hope the replacement happens fast.  He is also going to replace two of my outside front window screens because, in his words, I have been so "kind and gracious" with this whole process.
>>
>> -Since we didn't get any "nibbles" on the entertainment system posted on KSL classifieds, we decided to keep it.  We will throw the top mantle portion away, put the table in Rosey's room and put the two bookcases in dad's office (replacing the bookcases in there.) we appreciate everyone's help in carrying stuff downstairs and out in the garage.  Thanks strong family!
>>
>> I am oh so tired.  Sure love all of you.
>>
>> Love,
>> Mom
>>
>> Sent from my iPad
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Re: Love from Mom

What a great letter mom, and thanks again for dinner! One of these Sunday's we might be able to actually stick around for a bit rather than rush out the door.

As for angry patients, we are moving to a world where physician compensation is based on how patients rate them. There are a hundred reasons why doctors don't like it, but probably a longer list of why it's an important thing to consider. Anyway, some people are just grumpy, and like grandma winder would always remind us...maybe they just aren't having a great day.

We love love love all of your new furniture! That beautiful book shelf as we walk in is awesome complimented by your gorgeous table. Again, one of these days when we have a minute over there, I'll take down the measurements and see what we can wrangle.

Sure love you!

Nick

Sent from my iPhone

> On Feb 29, 2016, at 7:44 AM, Kristi Bassett <kristi.bassett@gmail.com> wrote:
>
> Way fun letter!
>
> I remember in college that Stef Stott and I had basically the exact same job - reception, office and aide duties. Mine was at a physical therapy office and hers in a heart clinic. I LOVED my job! I loved the people and the experience was fantastic. Stef thought it was the most miserable job on the planet. We talked a lot about it and realized the only real difference was the attitude of our patients- all of hers were old and grumpy and having serious health issues. I had a lot of old patients too, but their situation wasn't nearly as dire. I also had a lot of athletes and just random people. Anyway, I know that the attitude of patients makes a huge difference and I'm sorry she was upset at you. I can guarantee it was more a reflection of what is going on in her life than anything that happened at therapy that day.
>
> I still remember our grouchiest patient- George Proctor. He was ancient and hadn't walked in years. He was so grumpy as he came in week after week, but I still remember the day he took his first step in years. We all gathered around and watched, t was such a miracle and we were all so darn proud of that ornery old man. Ha!
>
> Anyway, fun to catch up on your week. I keep waiting for a letter from max to fill us in on his life, but I'm glad I get glimpses of it from you!
>
> Love,
> Kris
>
>> On Feb 29, 2016, at 12:11 AM, Wendy Bassett <wendy.bassett@gmail.com> wrote:
>>
>> Dear Family,
>>
>> I wanted to write a quick one before I head to bed this Sunday night. We just said goodbye to Max and Ashley and Rosey who stayed after the family dinner to play games. Ashley killed us in her first time playing Yatzee. She got two Yatzees!
>>
>> I sure enjoyed my Sabbath. After our block meetings I headed down to Provo to hear Max speak in his stake conference. He also sang in the stake choir which was made up primarily of his ward and was conducted by his bishop's wife. The music was amazing and inspiring, as well as Max's 5-minute talk (and he kept it to 5 minutes). He brought a beautiful Spirit into the meeting. And nice Ashley saved me a place close to the front where I had a perfect view of Max. I loved every minute! After the conference I got to meet Max's bishop and wife and they both went on and on about what a wonderful guy Max is, how he is certainly "going places" and how he accepts every assignment with a cheerful heart. A mother's payday!
>>
>> We had a family dinner with all 11 of us around the table. We missed Warner who had to work, and Blaine and Kristi's gang. Poor little Ned doesn't get a nap on Sunday and had a meltdown at the dinner table which prompted us later to put on home videos of Rosey at that age. Ashley was a good sport to watch (did she have a choice?). It was the famous one where Rosey bursts into tears and says "everyone laughed, even Blaine!" So fun. Then Ashley asked to watch Janey and Warner's wedding video and that brought back great memories, too.
>>
>> A couple of highlights for the week:
>>
>> -I went out to lunch with Janalee Wynn and laughed and laughed. We use to visit all the time and I just had not talked to her forever. I loved it.
>>
>> -Made a "Have A Good Trip" box of homemade Oreos and snickerdoodle cookies for the Yorgs. They left Friday for their big San Diego Trip with their kids and grandkids.
>>
>> -Got my hair cut from Gwen Yorgason.
>>
>> -Had a patient get really mad at me at work. Flora is her name. So happy to hear she was heading out of town and I won't be seeing her this week. She's a moody one.
>>
>> -Took a big load of stuff to DI. That felt good.
>>
>> -Got a visit from my blind guy, as in the guy who is fixing my blinds! He is going to replace the three in the dining area. The headrails won't match the rest of the room since they don't make those head rails anymore. But at this point I just want to take my sheet down. I just hope the replacement happens fast. He is also going to replace two of my outside front window screens because, in his words, I have been so "kind and gracious" with this whole process.
>>
>> -Since we didn't get any "nibbles" on the entertainment system posted on KSL classifieds, we decided to keep it. We will throw the top mantle portion away, put the table in Rosey's room and put the two bookcases in dad's office (replacing the bookcases in there.) we appreciate everyone's help in carrying stuff downstairs and out in the garage. Thanks strong family!
>>
>> I am oh so tired. Sure love all of you.
>>
>> Love,
>> Mom
>>
>> Sent from my iPad
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Re: Love from Mom

Way fun letter!

I remember in college that Stef Stott and I had basically the exact same job - reception, office and aide duties. Mine was at a physical therapy office and hers in a heart clinic. I LOVED my job! I loved the people and the experience was fantastic. Stef thought it was the most miserable job on the planet. We talked a lot about it and realized the only real difference was the attitude of our patients- all of hers were old and grumpy and having serious health issues. I had a lot of old patients too, but their situation wasn't nearly as dire. I also had a lot of athletes and just random people. Anyway, I know that the attitude of patients makes a huge difference and I'm sorry she was upset at you. I can guarantee it was more a reflection of what is going on in her life than anything that happened at therapy that day.

I still remember our grouchiest patient- George Proctor. He was ancient and hadn't walked in years. He was so grumpy as he came in week after week, but I still remember the day he took his first step in years. We all gathered around and watched, t was such a miracle and we were all so darn proud of that ornery old man. Ha!

Anyway, fun to catch up on your week. I keep waiting for a letter from max to fill us in on his life, but I'm glad I get glimpses of it from you!

Love,
Kris

> On Feb 29, 2016, at 12:11 AM, Wendy Bassett <wendy.bassett@gmail.com> wrote:
>
> Dear Family,
>
> I wanted to write a quick one before I head to bed this Sunday night. We just said goodbye to Max and Ashley and Rosey who stayed after the family dinner to play games. Ashley killed us in her first time playing Yatzee. She got two Yatzees!
>
> I sure enjoyed my Sabbath. After our block meetings I headed down to Provo to hear Max speak in his stake conference. He also sang in the stake choir which was made up primarily of his ward and was conducted by his bishop's wife. The music was amazing and inspiring, as well as Max's 5-minute talk (and he kept it to 5 minutes). He brought a beautiful Spirit into the meeting. And nice Ashley saved me a place close to the front where I had a perfect view of Max. I loved every minute! After the conference I got to meet Max's bishop and wife and they both went on and on about what a wonderful guy Max is, how he is certainly "going places" and how he accepts every assignment with a cheerful heart. A mother's payday!
>
> We had a family dinner with all 11 of us around the table. We missed Warner who had to work, and Blaine and Kristi's gang. Poor little Ned doesn't get a nap on Sunday and had a meltdown at the dinner table which prompted us later to put on home videos of Rosey at that age. Ashley was a good sport to watch (did she have a choice?). It was the famous one where Rosey bursts into tears and says "everyone laughed, even Blaine!" So fun. Then Ashley asked to watch Janey and Warner's wedding video and that brought back great memories, too.
>
> A couple of highlights for the week:
>
> -I went out to lunch with Janalee Wynn and laughed and laughed. We use to visit all the time and I just had not talked to her forever. I loved it.
>
> -Made a "Have A Good Trip" box of homemade Oreos and snickerdoodle cookies for the Yorgs. They left Friday for their big San Diego Trip with their kids and grandkids.
>
> -Got my hair cut from Gwen Yorgason.
>
> -Had a patient get really mad at me at work. Flora is her name. So happy to hear she was heading out of town and I won't be seeing her this week. She's a moody one.
>
> -Took a big load of stuff to DI. That felt good.
>
> -Got a visit from my blind guy, as in the guy who is fixing my blinds! He is going to replace the three in the dining area. The headrails won't match the rest of the room since they don't make those head rails anymore. But at this point I just want to take my sheet down. I just hope the replacement happens fast. He is also going to replace two of my outside front window screens because, in his words, I have been so "kind and gracious" with this whole process.
>
> -Since we didn't get any "nibbles" on the entertainment system posted on KSL classifieds, we decided to keep it. We will throw the top mantle portion away, put the table in Rosey's room and put the two bookcases in dad's office (replacing the bookcases in there.) we appreciate everyone's help in carrying stuff downstairs and out in the garage. Thanks strong family!
>
> I am oh so tired. Sure love all of you.
>
> Love,
> Mom
>
> Sent from my iPad
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Re: Love from Mom

Great letter my love.  I have no idea how anyone could get 'really mad' at you.  You don't deserve it. I know how people could get really mad at Rosey because her patients all have mental illnesses (not because she deserves it!).  But you get up and head off to work anyway.  I hope you have a great week.  As mom said, our old entertainment center is now broken apart into different pieces.  That's been an interesting ride.

Anyway - thanks honey for the fun letter.

On Sun, Feb 28, 2016 at 11:11 PM Wendy Bassett <wendy.bassett@gmail.com> wrote:

Dear Family,

I wanted to write a quick one before I head to bed this Sunday night.  We just said goodbye to Max and Ashley and Rosey who stayed after the family dinner to play games.  Ashley killed us in her first time playing Yatzee.  She got two Yatzees!

I sure enjoyed my Sabbath.  After our block meetings I headed down to Provo to hear Max speak in his stake conference.  He also sang in the stake choir which was made up primarily of his ward and was conducted by his bishop's wife.  The music was amazing and inspiring, as well as Max's 5-minute talk (and he kept it to 5 minutes). He brought a beautiful Spirit into the meeting.  And nice Ashley saved me a place close to the front where I had a perfect view of Max.  I loved every minute!  After the conference I got to meet Max's bishop and wife and they both went on and on about what a wonderful guy Max is, how he is certainly "going places" and how he accepts every assignment with a cheerful heart.  A mother's payday!

We had a family dinner with all 11 of us around the table.  We missed Warner who had to work, and Blaine and Kristi's gang.  Poor little Ned doesn't get a nap on Sunday and had a meltdown at the dinner table which prompted us later to put on home videos of Rosey at that age.  Ashley was a good sport to watch (did she have a choice?). It was the famous one where Rosey bursts into tears and says "everyone laughed, even Blaine!"  So fun.  Then Ashley asked to watch Janey and Warner's wedding video and that brought back great memories, too.

A couple of highlights for the week:

-I went out to lunch with Janalee Wynn and laughed and laughed.  We use to visit all the time and I just had not talked to her forever.  I loved it.

-Made a "Have A Good Trip" box of homemade Oreos and snickerdoodle cookies for the Yorgs.  They left Friday for their big San Diego Trip with their kids and grandkids.

-Got my hair cut from Gwen Yorgason.

-Had a patient get really mad at me at work.  Flora is her name.  So happy to hear she was heading out of town and I won't be seeing her this week. She's a moody one.

-Took a big load of stuff to DI.  That felt good.

-Got a visit from my blind guy, as in the guy who is fixing my blinds!  He is going to replace the three in the dining area.  The headrails won't match the rest of the room since they don't make those head rails anymore.  But at this point I just want to take my sheet down.  I just hope the replacement happens fast.  He is also going to replace two of my outside front window screens because, in his words, I have been so "kind and gracious" with this whole process.

-Since we didn't get any "nibbles" on the entertainment system posted on KSL classifieds, we decided to keep it.  We will throw the top mantle portion away, put the table in Rosey's room and put the two bookcases in dad's office (replacing the bookcases in there.) we appreciate everyone's help in carrying stuff downstairs and out in the garage.  Thanks strong family!

I am oh so tired.  Sure love all of you.

Love,
Mom

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Re: Love from Mom

Great recap of your week. Thanks again for dinner! Love ya. 

On Sunday, February 28, 2016, Wendy Bassett <wendy.bassett@gmail.com> wrote:

Dear Family,

I wanted to write a quick one before I head to bed this Sunday night.  We just said goodbye to Max and Ashley and Rosey who stayed after the family dinner to play games.  Ashley killed us in her first time playing Yatzee.  She got two Yatzees!

I sure enjoyed my Sabbath.  After our block meetings I headed down to Provo to hear Max speak in his stake conference.  He also sang in the stake choir which was made up primarily of his ward and was conducted by his bishop's wife.  The music was amazing and inspiring, as well as Max's 5-minute talk (and he kept it to 5 minutes). He brought a beautiful Spirit into the meeting.  And nice Ashley saved me a place close to the front where I had a perfect view of Max.  I loved every minute!  After the conference I got to meet Max's bishop and wife and they both went on and on about what a wonderful guy Max is, how he is certainly "going places" and how he accepts every assignment with a cheerful heart.  A mother's payday!

We had a family dinner with all 11 of us around the table.  We missed Warner who had to work, and Blaine and Kristi's gang.  Poor little Ned doesn't get a nap on Sunday and had a meltdown at the dinner table which prompted us later to put on home videos of Rosey at that age.  Ashley was a good sport to watch (did she have a choice?). It was the famous one where Rosey bursts into tears and says "everyone laughed, even Blaine!"  So fun.  Then Ashley asked to watch Janey and Warner's wedding video and that brought back great memories, too.

A couple of highlights for the week:

-I went out to lunch with Janalee Wynn and laughed and laughed.  We use to visit all the time and I just had not talked to her forever.  I loved it.

-Made a "Have A Good Trip" box of homemade Oreos and snickerdoodle cookies for the Yorgs.  They left Friday for their big San Diego Trip with their kids and grandkids.

-Got my hair cut from Gwen Yorgason.

-Had a patient get really mad at me at work.  Flora is her name.  So happy to hear she was heading out of town and I won't be seeing her this week. She's a moody one.

-Took a big load of stuff to DI.  That felt good.

-Got a visit from my blind guy, as in the guy who is fixing my blinds!  He is going to replace the three in the dining area.  The headrails won't match the rest of the room since they don't make those head rails anymore.  But at this point I just want to take my sheet down.  I just hope the replacement happens fast.  He is also going to replace two of my outside front window screens because, in his words, I have been so "kind and gracious" with this whole process.

-Since we didn't get any "nibbles" on the entertainment system posted on KSL classifieds, we decided to keep it.  We will throw the top mantle portion away, put the table in Rosey's room and put the two bookcases in dad's office (replacing the bookcases in there.) we appreciate everyone's help in carrying stuff downstairs and out in the garage.  Thanks strong family!

I am oh so tired.  Sure love all of you.

Love,
Mom

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Love from Mom

Dear Family,

I wanted to write a quick one before I head to bed this Sunday night. We just said goodbye to Max and Ashley and Rosey who stayed after the family dinner to play games. Ashley killed us in her first time playing Yatzee. She got two Yatzees!

I sure enjoyed my Sabbath. After our block meetings I headed down to Provo to hear Max speak in his stake conference. He also sang in the stake choir which was made up primarily of his ward and was conducted by his bishop's wife. The music was amazing and inspiring, as well as Max's 5-minute talk (and he kept it to 5 minutes). He brought a beautiful Spirit into the meeting. And nice Ashley saved me a place close to the front where I had a perfect view of Max. I loved every minute! After the conference I got to meet Max's bishop and wife and they both went on and on about what a wonderful guy Max is, how he is certainly "going places" and how he accepts every assignment with a cheerful heart. A mother's payday!

We had a family dinner with all 11 of us around the table. We missed Warner who had to work, and Blaine and Kristi's gang. Poor little Ned doesn't get a nap on Sunday and had a meltdown at the dinner table which prompted us later to put on home videos of Rosey at that age. Ashley was a good sport to watch (did she have a choice?). It was the famous one where Rosey bursts into tears and says "everyone laughed, even Blaine!" So fun. Then Ashley asked to watch Janey and Warner's wedding video and that brought back great memories, too.

A couple of highlights for the week:

-I went out to lunch with Janalee Wynn and laughed and laughed. We use to visit all the time and I just had not talked to her forever. I loved it.

-Made a "Have A Good Trip" box of homemade Oreos and snickerdoodle cookies for the Yorgs. They left Friday for their big San Diego Trip with their kids and grandkids.

-Got my hair cut from Gwen Yorgason.

-Had a patient get really mad at me at work. Flora is her name. So happy to hear she was heading out of town and I won't be seeing her this week. She's a moody one.

-Took a big load of stuff to DI. That felt good.

-Got a visit from my blind guy, as in the guy who is fixing my blinds! He is going to replace the three in the dining area. The headrails won't match the rest of the room since they don't make those head rails anymore. But at this point I just want to take my sheet down. I just hope the replacement happens fast. He is also going to replace two of my outside front window screens because, in his words, I have been so "kind and gracious" with this whole process.

-Since we didn't get any "nibbles" on the entertainment system posted on KSL classifieds, we decided to keep it. We will throw the top mantle portion away, put the table in Rosey's room and put the two bookcases in dad's office (replacing the bookcases in there.) we appreciate everyone's help in carrying stuff downstairs and out in the garage. Thanks strong family!

I am oh so tired. Sure love all of you.

Love,
Mom

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Re: Just Do It

What a fun letter mom, thanks for sharing. It was so fun to come in and see all the new furniture! I (with Blaine) have to comment on the incredible example both you and dad were as you endured the tv trial. I'm sure there were more moments of frustration than I saw, but truly, I've hardly heard a word of complaint from either of you. Way to go!

Loves,

Nick

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On Feb 23, 2016, at 12:26 PM, Wendy Bassett <wendy.bassett@gmail.com> wrote:

To answer your questions, no specific time frame has been given for the temple but they have said "late 2018" so that means closure is over 18 months. Man we are so spoiled here!

The table is 40x84 and has two 10" leaves that can be added. They are stored inside the table. It actually opens up big enough to fit a third leaf  so that will make it fit 12 adults comfortably. I need to get someone to make a third leaf.  Right now we have the 8 matching chairs and can pull 4 more from the corner round table (which I plan to keep). The bench is just 48 inches but fit the three boys (Clay did complain that is was way too hard!)

Thanks for caring enough to ask!

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On Feb 23, 2016, at 7:04 AM, Kristi Bassett <kristi.bassett@gmail.com> wrote:

That is a crazy story about the TV. AGH! SO FRUSTRATING. You really do have a great attitude about it, wow. WOW. 

Sounds like when we visit next we have a lot to look forward to seeing! So how many people does the new table seat? We love having a bench (which it sounds like you have? The picture made it hard for me to tell), we can squeeze so many kids on that thing! Does your new one have a leaf or does it stay the same size? And I still haven't seen a pic of the entertainment center. What fun upgrades! 

How long will the Jordan River Temple be closed for? 

Fun update, thank you for taking the time to share it with us! 

On Mon, Feb 22, 2016 at 9:51 PM, Stef's Gmail <stef.m.bassett@gmail.com> wrote:

Sweet letter mom :) we sure love you and are excited about all the new furniture purchases. They are beautiful! :) hope your lip heals up! Dad is lucky to still get kisses when it's so sensitive 😜. Thanks for all you do for us!!
Love ya!

Sent from my iPhone

> On Feb 21, 2016, at 11:59 PM, Wendy Bassett <wendy.bassett@gmail.com> wrote:
>
> Dear Family,
>
> That's my new motto for writing a family letter - "Just Do It".  Sometimes the hardest part for me is just starting!  But write I will.
>
> I have so much to "catch up" on.  I have to admit that this letter will also serve as my journal entry for the past couple weeks so bear with me if you get uninteresting details.  And because it's how my brain works, I'm going to highlight stuff chronologically.  (But thankfully not day by day:)
>
> On the afternoon of Saturday, Feb. 6 dad and I decided to get a new flat screen tv.  Dad had talked about wanting one for a while and with all the pre Super Bowl sales now seemed like the time.  So we headed to Costco and delightedly found Nick and boys already there so they could help us load it up.  We paid $600 plus tax ($687) for a Samsung 60 inch tv.  Nick kindly brought in here in his van and helped dad set it up.  Dad had to separate our entertainment center and remove the top shelf box to make the tv fit.  The new tv was great, the "spaced out" entertainment center looked lousy.  The bookshelves were pushed apart and the top mantle piece only extended part way on each shelf.
>
> Monday when I got home from work dad suggested that we attach the box bookshelf back on to make the whole center look nicer.  Dad had taken it apart and said it was a matter of dropping in four screws from the top mantle piece onto the box that formed the middle shelf above the tv.  So we rolled the rug back, slid out the table which held the new 60 inch tv, and with me on a stepping stool and dad holding the box shelf on his back (think Atlas holding the world) I proceeded to try and drop the 4 screws in place from above.  Looking back, it was a stupid idea!   It was MUCH harder than we anticipated and I was much weaker than dad anticipated, and after several minutes and having only one screw attach properly something happened.  I would like to see the movie in heaven to see just what happened next but I will take the blame because my arms are so weak.  The mantle piece and box were suddenly coming at me.  Dad couldn't see what was happening since he was hunched over.  I was falling off the stool, the box and mantle piece coming after me.  Dad raised up in time to see it all happen and thought I was going to be decapitated.  Thankfully I wasn't hurt beyond a few bruises and scratches, but in the falling the mantle hit the tv and knocked it forward off the table onto the floor.  When we knew we were okay, we looked at the tv.  It looked okay on the outside screen but when we turned it on we realized that there was a crack diagonally from corner to corner and the left side had bright colored lines running down it.  Our tv, less than 48 hours old, was damaged!  We called Costco and honestly explained it was damaged during installation. They directed us to their Costco Concierge Technical Support who we talked with several times.  Because it was our error, the warranty was void and they could do nothing but send us on to Samsung who also would do nothing but give us the name of a repair person in Provo.  They added that it was probably not worth the money to repair.
>
> So isn't that a sad story?  Dad has since moved the tv downstairs and has taken off the back and messed with it, but to no avail.  It is, indeed, a sad story!  But we are thankful we are honest and that no one was hurt.
>
> My other sad story is my dumb blinds.  Last summer the inside string on my large family room blind broke.  It wouldn't go up and down but since I rarely open that one it wasn't a huge problem.  Finally,  near the end of January, I got around to taking it in for repair.  I took them to a guy in West Bountiful who said they would be done in a week.   After several weeks and phone calls I learned that in the process of repair they fell and tore apart.  I have learned that Hunter Douglas does not make these kind of blinds anymore.  The guy has come out to the house and taken pictures of my other blinds and is trying to see what he can do to get a replacement.  He is a small business owner and I feel sorry for him, but by the same token, I want my blinds to match and the error was his.  In the meantime, I have a sheet hanging in the window.  A couple of weeks ago when Clay was here for Sunday dinner he exclaimed "grandma, you got new curtains!"  That is the ONLY thing making me smile over this project.
>
> Wednesday, Feb. 10 was my last day as an ordinance worker in the Jordan River Temple.  The temple closed on Feb. 13 for major remodeling and everyone was released.  It was a day full of reflection for the beautiful experiences I have had there and also tears of goodbye to fellow ordinance workers that I had grown close to in a special way.  I feel thankful and blessed to have had that experience and hope to be able to do it again.  It was a privilege and honor to serve and I enjoyed it in ways I can't put into words.  I will miss it.
>
> Sunday, February 14 was Valentines Day.  We had the family for dinner, including Max and Ashley.  Then, because there was no school in the morning, Nick's family could stick around and we played some "grandma Bassett" games including water in the face, the spelling games (two teams, letters on your front and back) and also "this is a fork" game.  It was fun!  Max and Ashley spent the night at the house.
>
> Monday, February 15 I had to work😪. Dad, M&A made a big breakfast.   Thankfully I got a long lunch hour dad and I went over to Vintage Oak and finally made the decision to purchase the dining table and chairs and the entertainment center that we have been looking at the past few weeks.  We felt good about it!  That night we fed our YSA missionaries (who are the APs and sharp guys) along with Max and Ashley.  A fun evening.
>
> Tuesday, February 16 uncle Roger was having chest and arm pains and went to the ER and learned he was having a heart attack.  They put in two stints.  He was in the hospital 3 days.  No damage done to his heart, his arteries were blocked.  It was a scare for all.
>
> Wednesday, February 17 I went to the dermatologist.  I have had some sores on my upper lip that were not getting better.  I had this same thing about four years ago and had them zapped with liquid nitrogen.  The same thing happened at this appointment but this time it hurt a lot more!  Tears were squeezing out of my eyes.  There were three spots on my upper lip and then two above my eyebrow.  Yikes, the ones on my lip really hurt!  They have turned first to blisters and now ugly scabs.  It kind of looks like a bad lipstick job.   Ug!   I am very careful when I kiss dad as they are sensitive.😀.
>
> That same day I went with Nancy and her girls and grandkids to the Provo City Temple Openhouse.  That is a beautiful temple, down to the last detail.  Even the hinges on the doors were decorative!  I loved seeing it and can't wait to go back after the dedication.
>
> Our new furniture was delivered on Friday, Feb. 19.  We gave our oak table and 8 chairs, along with lots of tablecloths, to Margaret and Mark.  We are so happy they were so excited about it.  Now to figure out what to do with the pine entertainment center.  It's sitting in pieces all around the family room.
>
> Just to finish up (and since this IS My journal entry) a couple other events worth noting.
>
> Nancy was released from her calling as ward RS President after serving almost four years!  She taught the lesson on fast day, the day she was released, and I went to the JN ward to hear it.  She has done a wonderful job.  Shelley Poulson is the new president.
>
> Last Saturday I went down to Warner's parents house in Lehi and enjoyed seeing the remodeling they are doing.  They just stained their oak floor and it is beautiful.
>
> Last Thursday was Hale Theater.  It was grandma, Doug, Julie, Rosey and I and we enjoyed The Pirate Queen.
>
> Today was our ward conference and dad gave a wonderful talk on honoring the sabbath.  It was interesting for me to think back to a year ago when I was involved with all 11 ward conferences.  I appreciated all that I learned at that time, but I loved being on the "ward end" and just enjoying the spirit.  Lots of the family came for dinner to break in the new table.  We bought a little black bench that Ned, Clay and Bret all sat on.  It was fun to sit across from them and enjoy dinner.  We also appreciated visiting with Blaine and Kris and kids this afternoon.  And Max, too.  I think I talked to everyone but Gwen today!!
>
> Time for bed.  Dad is already asleep.  Congratulations if you made it to the end!
>
> Love, mom
>
> Sent from my iPad
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Re: Just Do It

To answer your questions, no specific time frame has been given for the temple but they have said "late 2018" so that means closure is over 18 months. Man we are so spoiled here!

The table is 40x84 and has two 10" leaves that can be added. They are stored inside the table. It actually opens up big enough to fit a third leaf  so that will make it fit 12 adults comfortably. I need to get someone to make a third leaf.  Right now we have the 8 matching chairs and can pull 4 more from the corner round table (which I plan to keep). The bench is just 48 inches but fit the three boys (Clay did complain that is was way too hard!)

Thanks for caring enough to ask!

Sent from my iPhone

On Feb 23, 2016, at 7:04 AM, Kristi Bassett <kristi.bassett@gmail.com> wrote:

That is a crazy story about the TV. AGH! SO FRUSTRATING. You really do have a great attitude about it, wow. WOW. 

Sounds like when we visit next we have a lot to look forward to seeing! So how many people does the new table seat? We love having a bench (which it sounds like you have? The picture made it hard for me to tell), we can squeeze so many kids on that thing! Does your new one have a leaf or does it stay the same size? And I still haven't seen a pic of the entertainment center. What fun upgrades! 

How long will the Jordan River Temple be closed for? 

Fun update, thank you for taking the time to share it with us! 

On Mon, Feb 22, 2016 at 9:51 PM, Stef's Gmail <stef.m.bassett@gmail.com> wrote:

Sweet letter mom :) we sure love you and are excited about all the new furniture purchases. They are beautiful! :) hope your lip heals up! Dad is lucky to still get kisses when it's so sensitive 😜. Thanks for all you do for us!!
Love ya!

Sent from my iPhone

> On Feb 21, 2016, at 11:59 PM, Wendy Bassett <wendy.bassett@gmail.com> wrote:
>
> Dear Family,
>
> That's my new motto for writing a family letter - "Just Do It".  Sometimes the hardest part for me is just starting!  But write I will.
>
> I have so much to "catch up" on.  I have to admit that this letter will also serve as my journal entry for the past couple weeks so bear with me if you get uninteresting details.  And because it's how my brain works, I'm going to highlight stuff chronologically.  (But thankfully not day by day:)
>
> On the afternoon of Saturday, Feb. 6 dad and I decided to get a new flat screen tv.  Dad had talked about wanting one for a while and with all the pre Super Bowl sales now seemed like the time.  So we headed to Costco and delightedly found Nick and boys already there so they could help us load it up.  We paid $600 plus tax ($687) for a Samsung 60 inch tv.  Nick kindly brought in here in his van and helped dad set it up.  Dad had to separate our entertainment center and remove the top shelf box to make the tv fit.  The new tv was great, the "spaced out" entertainment center looked lousy.  The bookshelves were pushed apart and the top mantle piece only extended part way on each shelf.
>
> Monday when I got home from work dad suggested that we attach the box bookshelf back on to make the whole center look nicer.  Dad had taken it apart and said it was a matter of dropping in four screws from the top mantle piece onto the box that formed the middle shelf above the tv.  So we rolled the rug back, slid out the table which held the new 60 inch tv, and with me on a stepping stool and dad holding the box shelf on his back (think Atlas holding the world) I proceeded to try and drop the 4 screws in place from above.  Looking back, it was a stupid idea!   It was MUCH harder than we anticipated and I was much weaker than dad anticipated, and after several minutes and having only one screw attach properly something happened.  I would like to see the movie in heaven to see just what happened next but I will take the blame because my arms are so weak.  The mantle piece and box were suddenly coming at me.  Dad couldn't see what was happening since he was hunched over.  I was falling off the stool, the box and mantle piece coming after me.  Dad raised up in time to see it all happen and thought I was going to be decapitated.  Thankfully I wasn't hurt beyond a few bruises and scratches, but in the falling the mantle hit the tv and knocked it forward off the table onto the floor.  When we knew we were okay, we looked at the tv.  It looked okay on the outside screen but when we turned it on we realized that there was a crack diagonally from corner to corner and the left side had bright colored lines running down it.  Our tv, less than 48 hours old, was damaged!  We called Costco and honestly explained it was damaged during installation. They directed us to their Costco Concierge Technical Support who we talked with several times.  Because it was our error, the warranty was void and they could do nothing but send us on to Samsung who also would do nothing but give us the name of a repair person in Provo.  They added that it was probably not worth the money to repair.
>
> So isn't that a sad story?  Dad has since moved the tv downstairs and has taken off the back and messed with it, but to no avail.  It is, indeed, a sad story!  But we are thankful we are honest and that no one was hurt.
>
> My other sad story is my dumb blinds.  Last summer the inside string on my large family room blind broke.  It wouldn't go up and down but since I rarely open that one it wasn't a huge problem.  Finally,  near the end of January, I got around to taking it in for repair.  I took them to a guy in West Bountiful who said they would be done in a week.   After several weeks and phone calls I learned that in the process of repair they fell and tore apart.  I have learned that Hunter Douglas does not make these kind of blinds anymore.  The guy has come out to the house and taken pictures of my other blinds and is trying to see what he can do to get a replacement.  He is a small business owner and I feel sorry for him, but by the same token, I want my blinds to match and the error was his.  In the meantime, I have a sheet hanging in the window.  A couple of weeks ago when Clay was here for Sunday dinner he exclaimed "grandma, you got new curtains!"  That is the ONLY thing making me smile over this project.
>
> Wednesday, Feb. 10 was my last day as an ordinance worker in the Jordan River Temple.  The temple closed on Feb. 13 for major remodeling and everyone was released.  It was a day full of reflection for the beautiful experiences I have had there and also tears of goodbye to fellow ordinance workers that I had grown close to in a special way.  I feel thankful and blessed to have had that experience and hope to be able to do it again.  It was a privilege and honor to serve and I enjoyed it in ways I can't put into words.  I will miss it.
>
> Sunday, February 14 was Valentines Day.  We had the family for dinner, including Max and Ashley.  Then, because there was no school in the morning, Nick's family could stick around and we played some "grandma Bassett" games including water in the face, the spelling games (two teams, letters on your front and back) and also "this is a fork" game.  It was fun!  Max and Ashley spent the night at the house.
>
> Monday, February 15 I had to work😪. Dad, M&A made a big breakfast.   Thankfully I got a long lunch hour dad and I went over to Vintage Oak and finally made the decision to purchase the dining table and chairs and the entertainment center that we have been looking at the past few weeks.  We felt good about it!  That night we fed our YSA missionaries (who are the APs and sharp guys) along with Max and Ashley.  A fun evening.
>
> Tuesday, February 16 uncle Roger was having chest and arm pains and went to the ER and learned he was having a heart attack.  They put in two stints.  He was in the hospital 3 days.  No damage done to his heart, his arteries were blocked.  It was a scare for all.
>
> Wednesday, February 17 I went to the dermatologist.  I have had some sores on my upper lip that were not getting better.  I had this same thing about four years ago and had them zapped with liquid nitrogen.  The same thing happened at this appointment but this time it hurt a lot more!  Tears were squeezing out of my eyes.  There were three spots on my upper lip and then two above my eyebrow.  Yikes, the ones on my lip really hurt!  They have turned first to blisters and now ugly scabs.  It kind of looks like a bad lipstick job.   Ug!   I am very careful when I kiss dad as they are sensitive.😀.
>
> That same day I went with Nancy and her girls and grandkids to the Provo City Temple Openhouse.  That is a beautiful temple, down to the last detail.  Even the hinges on the doors were decorative!  I loved seeing it and can't wait to go back after the dedication.
>
> Our new furniture was delivered on Friday, Feb. 19.  We gave our oak table and 8 chairs, along with lots of tablecloths, to Margaret and Mark.  We are so happy they were so excited about it.  Now to figure out what to do with the pine entertainment center.  It's sitting in pieces all around the family room.
>
> Just to finish up (and since this IS My journal entry) a couple other events worth noting.
>
> Nancy was released from her calling as ward RS President after serving almost four years!  She taught the lesson on fast day, the day she was released, and I went to the JN ward to hear it.  She has done a wonderful job.  Shelley Poulson is the new president.
>
> Last Saturday I went down to Warner's parents house in Lehi and enjoyed seeing the remodeling they are doing.  They just stained their oak floor and it is beautiful.
>
> Last Thursday was Hale Theater.  It was grandma, Doug, Julie, Rosey and I and we enjoyed The Pirate Queen.
>
> Today was our ward conference and dad gave a wonderful talk on honoring the sabbath.  It was interesting for me to think back to a year ago when I was involved with all 11 ward conferences.  I appreciated all that I learned at that time, but I loved being on the "ward end" and just enjoying the spirit.  Lots of the family came for dinner to break in the new table.  We bought a little black bench that Ned, Clay and Bret all sat on.  It was fun to sit across from them and enjoy dinner.  We also appreciated visiting with Blaine and Kris and kids this afternoon.  And Max, too.  I think I talked to everyone but Gwen today!!
>
> Time for bed.  Dad is already asleep.  Congratulations if you made it to the end!
>
> Love, mom
>
> Sent from my iPad
>
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Re: Love Dad

And with our luck, you'd be called to serve in the San Antonio mission, in the Austin area ;) The ultimate irony! 

On Tue, Feb 23, 2016 at 12:00 AM, bret bassett <bretbassett@gmail.com> wrote:

Hon I love your insights and wisdom. Mom and I agree that it would be weird if Blaine and Kristi moved here and then the family just sort of blew apart. Nick and Stef in the Chinese immersion country in Provo. Janey and warner in Tooele, Rosey in Davis county, and max in BYU land. And if we left to serve a mission. You never know.

On Mon, Feb 22, 2016 at 10:05 PM Wendy Bassett <wendy.bassett@gmail.com> wrote:

I love this thread and I have lots of thoughts.  

First to Blaine and Kristi - I'm glad you got to hear dad express the thoughts in his heart.  I hope and think you felt the great love he and I have for you.

At the close of Blaine's letter he talked about walking by faith, one step at a time.  That is such good advice!  Sometimes things come into clarity and focus as you ponder and consider options and even take a step into the darkness.   We pray you guys do what is right for YOUR family.  

One of the many blessings in my life is that you guys are keeping YOUR family strong.  I think about the scripture about cleaving to each other.  I think Blaine and Kristi are such good examples of that.  I cherish the tribute Kris gave to Blaine on their anniversary/Valentines Day on Instagram.  She talked about how marrying Blaine was the best decision she has ever made.  That brought me, as a mom, so much joy.  It really is the bottom line.  I feel that same way about dad and now to get to hear it from my kids is just the best!  So in reality, that is what counts the most.  Of course I want you guys to be close to us and to each other.  But more importantly I want you to be building a strong family.

As you consider what to do - not just Blaine and Kristi but all of you - I hope you will always do what is best for you and what you want and feel s right.  I would never want someone to move close just to do me a favor or expect that life would be a certain way.  Do it because that is what YOU really feel s best.  Otherwise, I'm sure we could never live up to anyone's expectations!

BAWB letters.  Our conversation on Sunday with Blaine made me resolve to do better at writing more regularly. And for encouraging others to do the same.   I really think one of the valuable things dad's Bassett family has is the record of everyone's life because of the Bark.  And that happened mostly because they were spread apart.  I admit that I do find it more motivating to write when someone is far away.  And in the process of everyone writing and reading your letters I feel I learn more than I ever do sitting at the Sunday dinner table.  Back when we all wrote to Max pretty regularly I remember thinking over and over again what a blessing it was to feel what was in your heart through your letters.  So having said that, I resolve to do better in writing regularly.  I know I will mess up so let's keep on giving each other encouragement.  And frankly nothing encourages me more than when I get a response, short or long, that someone has read and enjoyed my letter.  It shows you care about the details in my life.  

 

Just for the record - OF COURSE I would love to have everyone live close by.  It is SO FUN to have Janey, Warner, Griff and Rosey so close and Nick and Stef's gang not much further.  And Max close enough to come at least a couple times a month.  We all definitely have our own very busy lives, but when we make time to get together it is joyous!  It's selfish to want it to be easy and painless to see each other often.   But it is so darn nice and natural to have it this way.  But that being said, I want people here because that is where they choose to be!  And when anyone can't be close by I want to do my best to keep our family bonds as strong as possible.

Sure love you all!

Love,

Mom

Sent from my iPad

On Feb 22, 2016, at 11:34 AM, Blaine Bassett <blainebbassett@gmail.com> wrote:

Thank you Dad and everyone else who has replied for your kind words, both in this email and on the phone. We too feel bad to be hogging all the sweetness so that none of you quite understand exactly how sweet little Tess is or how fun and scary it is to see how fast the other kids are learning and growing. Oh, and Dad, you never have to apologize to me for being "blubbery and tear soaked." I totally understand that and can be horrible with it too, although I can never predict what it is that will get to me. For whatever reason, I did okay on the phone yesterday but ask me to read an article from the Friend to a kid or explain the plot of almost any even moderately touching movie and I'm a mess. Anyway, we sure appreciate you and Mom taking the time to talk yesterday and we appreciated and learned much from the wisdom that you shared with us, so thanks.

I too had a hard time explaining myself on the phone yesterday, both to you and Mom, and then later to Nick, who was fun to call later right before we went to bed. We do yearn to be closer--both physically and emotionally--to all of you, and the distance does make that difficult. We miss the letters that we were all much more inclined to write when Max was still in Spain. If I miss anything about my old job and the commute associated with it, it is the excuse I had to call and see if I could get a hold of anyone to shoot the breeze and catch up. A year and a half into our life in Texas and much of that has slowed or stopped and we miss it a lot. On the one hand, that scares me and makes me feel panicky that if we stay here and I don't really get our rear in gear to fix things, our precious relationships with family could be permanently weakened. When we moved here we thought about the Bassett side of the family (as in the Dick and Janice Bassett family) as a model of how a family can be spread out and still stay incredibly close. However, we have learned that Bark letters don't write themselves, trips and reunions don't just magically happen, and emotional closeness does not occur by accident across vast distances. 

So the solution must be simple--we just need to move back. I wish it were that simple. Unfortunately, I think emotional closeness also does not occur by accident across distances of even a few miles. Maybe if it worked for us to move next door to one of you--to really be involved in one another's everyday lives in a similar way as Mom got to be involved with her family as next door neighbors or just across the fields--we couldn't help but be close. But what if we don't live quite that close? I guess the realization for me has been that uprooting our life and moving across the country once again is one way that we could do our part to help strengthen the relationships we all treasure. Mom and Dad paying thousands of dollars for Disneyworld trips or anyone using their vacation time and money to visit us or to come watch our kids or whatever are also great ways to do this. But these are just a few of the biggest and most dramatic ways of staying close. Driving up to Sunday dinner at Mom and Dad's, random phone calls, emails, quick replies to emails, text messages, Facebook/Instagram comments, FaceTime messages, birthday cards, attending cousin's sports games, and a hundred other things also help us stay close and are important too. Some of these require physical proximity. Many of them, thanks to technology we all have available to us, do not. 

There are a lot of factors that we are weighing as we consider where to move next. I think we could very well end up in Utah and I think it is also possible that we won't. Like dad encouraged, a lot of it will depend on what we feel like the Lord wants us to do (not sure about that yet) and if He feels that we have accomplished what He needed us here for. But regardless of what we do next, I know we all agree that these relationships with each other are worth fighting for. We can't wait for DisneyWorld and we love hearing that y'all are getting together so often and staying close by so many in-person visits. We are cheering you on to keep that going from here. At the same time, we hope that we can continue to prioritize and even to recommit ourselves to doing some of the other things that will help us stay close. I hope I'm not sounding preachy or anything, because I really am preaching to myself more than anyone else. (It's like a take on that old thing you'd hear in seminary: "If you don't feel as close to God as you did yesterday, who moved?" where you replace "God" with "your family".) 

I just want to thank you all for all that you do of these things, and to commit myself to trying harder. Like Kristi said, the question for today doesn't have to be where we are going to spend the rest of our lives--it can just be what color of paint to pick for the family room. I'm a big believer that walking by faith usually happens one step at a time and that's what we'll have to accept for now. But I do hope you know that we do love you and miss you like crazy, and that we feel your love and prayers from afar as well. Thanks for making this such a great family to be a part of!

Love,

Blaine

P.S. Nick, I have to say that your resume question definitely fits under the category of things that can be discussed without physical proximity being a requirement. I would always love to get a phone call from you about something like that. Not that my advice would be as good as Dad's was even if you had called--incidentally, I think his instinct on that is spot on and a great way to go. Good luck! :)

 

On Mon, Feb 22, 2016 at 8:48 AM, bret bassett <bretbassett@gmail.com> wrote:

Nick, correct the error, print it off and take it with you.  If it comes up, you can hand em the updated resume and laugh about it.  But other than that, I wouldn't say a word.

Good luck.

On Sun, Feb 21, 2016 at 10:53 PM Warner Nielsen <bwn888@gmail.com> wrote:

And only 50 shades of grey?

On Sunday, February 21, 2016, Kristi Bassett <kristi.bassett@gmail.com> wrote:

Okay, I'm going to have to side with whoever has watched more episodes of Fixer-Upper, fess up, is it Nick or Janey? ;) haha. 

Our realtor recommended a more neutral color (but nick in the house we live in I'm definitely going for your recommendations ;), but Jane, I was at Home Depot and there were about 50,000 shades of white 😱

On Feb 21, 2016, at 10:24 PM, Janey Nielsen <janeybassett@gmail.com> wrote:

I think I'd stick with white paint.....or something along those lines. 

On Sunday, February 21, 2016, Janey Nielsen <janeybassett@gmail.com> wrote:

Perfect way to face tough decisions and times in life....take it one day at a time and learn all you can. I remember a couple months after coming home from my mission thinking "I wish it was two years from now, because I know that "time" is the best way to heal from this and maybe then I'll understand why everything happened the way it did." And while time did help ease the pain, I didn't (and still don't) have all the answers of why things happened as they did. However, I still have experiences in my life where I feel like something from that "mission experience" taught me better how to handle a situation now. 

You may not completely understand why you went to Texas, but it sounds like you're learning and growing and taking it one day at a time. 

  I love you guys and wish you luck in all your decisions. And hopefully whatever you decide, you can be happy and feel peace! 

Love, Janey

On Sunday, February 21, 2016, Kristi Bassett <kristi.bassett@gmail.com> wrote:

Dad, you are so sweet, and we were all touched by our conversation.  I don't think either of us was able to express what we feel very well. It's hard to explain to someone else in a few minutes something that you spend hours and hours thinking and talking about each week (if not each day!). We always do appreciate your love and wisdom! And appreciate your patience as we try to condense our thoughts into a brief conversation. 

It is hard to be far away and know we are missing out on so much. I was telling Blaine the other day how frustrating it has been that I've been in Texas for most of my kids' first years. Tess is SO cute and is so fun and it is heartbreaking knowing that you guys don't get to see it and to know her personality as it is right now. It's really hard. And I miss being there to watch Griff and Bret and clay and Ned grow- and to meet Ashley and on and on. 

At the same time we are learning and growing and doing things that we wouldn't be if we were still there. I know our family is benefitting from this experience.

Where to go from here? I don't know. This is one of those years...one of the ones with too many decisions to make and to many things to do that when I think about it all I just want to hide in my closet and eat cookies :) 

The last year I had like that (2014-- with a birth, surgery, finals, the bar, a move, a new job- all in one summer), the way I coped was to just think --- I know that I will wake up one day in mid September... By then I will have had a baby, Blaine will have taken the bars, we will have chosen a house and packed up and moved and unpacked, and I'll wake up that September day and everything will be done, so until then I'll chug along and make decisions on a day to day basis that will get me there. 

That's how I feel this year too. I want to hide, but instead I'll do my best each day and hopefully by the end of summer our house will be sold, decisions will be made, and I'll wake up somewhere (here, or Utah, or maybe Kauai ;) and it will be the right place- so long as I do my best to make my best decisions on a day to day basis. I'm not going to choose where to move tomorrow. Tomorrow I'm going to choose the color of paint to paint our round rock house. It's the best I can do tomorrow, and it's enough. 

We sure appreciate the love and the conversation, we are grateful that we get to be a part of this family no matter where we live- and we can't wait to see y'all in Disney!

Much love!

Love,

Kris 

On Feb 21, 2016, at 6:30 PM, bret bassett <bretbassett@gmail.com> wrote:

Just got off the phone with Blaine where I told he and his family how much we love them and miss them at our family dinners each week.  It's so fun to see Griffeth take his first steps, and see the 3 boys get ready for their little sister to arrive in the world.  And I feel bad that I am not having those same experiences with Ben and Tess and Ivy and Gwen.  And when I tried to tell them how I felt, it all came out all blubbery and tear soaked.  

So first my apology to Blaine and Kristi.  I am not really all that crippled emotionally that I'm going to die without you close.  I get that there are famililes that hate each other even though they are right next door.  And those who are super loving and loyal and close even though they are far far away.

I guess the best I can say, is do what the Lord tells you to do.  We'll do the same, and we'll both be just fine.  I do think that the Lord put you there for an as-yet-undetermined reason.   (Unless the reason was to learn that Big Law was not where he wanted you to work)   So I promise we will not judge if you come or don't come.  

Just know that we love and miss you and can't wait for disneyworld.

I'm becoming worse and worse at writing... probably because I am on emails a lot of my work day.  I'll try and do better.

Loves.

Dad

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Re: Love Dad

Ha ha Stef, you're not a lone. I know many people that function off of proximity. Which is sad when you're the only non-proximate person. I'm glad we can have our very succinct text convos to keep us connected ;) If only Utah had as much land for sale as Texas, we could just buy a compound and all move there! I really do have a friend who just did that here, they bought 8 acres, and his brother bought another 11, her mother-in-law bought a tiny house just off the back of hers. It's a proximity lovers dream! I'd probably get on your nerves if we were that close though, sometimes I am tolerated better at a distance ;) 

Miss you! 

On Mon, Feb 22, 2016 at 9:46 PM, Stef's Gmail <stef.m.bassett@gmail.com> wrote:

Kris I would jump at the chance to be neighbors. Nick and I truly feel that is the only way to have what mom and Nancy have!  We miss you guys and your kids. We are open to anywhere with Chinese Immersion boundaries and close access to other family members. :) I am the first to admit I am a reclusive homebody that functions off of PROXIMITY :). 

If it's not right for you tho we all get it. :) 

Love you guys! 

Sent from my iPhone

On Feb 22, 2016, at 7:11 PM, bret bassett <bretbassett@gmail.com> wrote:

Blaine, I like to believe that at some time in my life I too had the clarity of thought and the precision of expression which you possess. But alas! With your clarity I have total trust you'll do what is right. And I'll commit to being a better sharer.

On Mon, Feb 22, 2016 at 6:14 PM Rosey <roseybassett@gmail.com> wrote:

I have enjoyed reading all of these responses. At the risk of sounding like I have a gaping hole, I must just say that it is MUCH easier for me to feel emotionally close to you guys when I am living in close proximity. Oh how I miss watching your kiddos, 

And having sleepovers with them! I'll try and write more, but that simply does not help me feel any closer to your kids, which makes me so sad. So I guess the solution is to figure out a way to get more time off so that I can fly to Texas more. 

Sorry if my message sounds more grumpy. I am just laying in my bed after a long day with cramps. And I simply miss y'all. 

Warner, your comment made me laugh out loud. You're hilarious. 

Sent from my iPhone

On Feb 22, 2016, at 11:34 AM, Blaine Bassett <blainebbassett@gmail.com> wrote:

Thank you Dad and everyone else who has replied for your kind words, both in this email and on the phone. We too feel bad to be hogging all the sweetness so that none of you quite understand exactly how sweet little Tess is or how fun and scary it is to see how fast the other kids are learning and growing. Oh, and Dad, you never have to apologize to me for being "blubbery and tear soaked." I totally understand that and can be horrible with it too, although I can never predict what it is that will get to me. For whatever reason, I did okay on the phone yesterday but ask me to read an article from the Friend to a kid or explain the plot of almost any even moderately touching movie and I'm a mess. Anyway, we sure appreciate you and Mom taking the time to talk yesterday and we appreciated and learned much from the wisdom that you shared with us, so thanks.

I too had a hard time explaining myself on the phone yesterday, both to you and Mom, and then later to Nick, who was fun to call later right before we went to bed. We do yearn to be closer--both physically and emotionally--to all of you, and the distance does make that difficult. We miss the letters that we were all much more inclined to write when Max was still in Spain. If I miss anything about my old job and the commute associated with it, it is the excuse I had to call and see if I could get a hold of anyone to shoot the breeze and catch up. A year and a half into our life in Texas and much of that has slowed or stopped and we miss it a lot. On the one hand, that scares me and makes me feel panicky that if we stay here and I don't really get our rear in gear to fix things, our precious relationships with family could be permanently weakened. When we moved here we thought about the Bassett side of the family (as in the Dick and Janice Bassett family) as a model of how a family can be spread out and still stay incredibly close. However, we have learned that Bark letters don't write themselves, trips and reunions don't just magically happen, and emotional closeness does not occur by accident across vast distances. 

So the solution must be simple--we just need to move back. I wish it were that simple. Unfortunately, I think emotional closeness also does not occur by accident across distances of even a few miles. Maybe if it worked for us to move next door to one of you--to really be involved in one another's everyday lives in a similar way as Mom got to be involved with her family as next door neighbors or just across the fields--we couldn't help but be close. But what if we don't live quite that close? I guess the realization for me has been that uprooting our life and moving across the country once again is one way that we could do our part to help strengthen the relationships we all treasure. Mom and Dad paying thousands of dollars for Disneyworld trips or anyone using their vacation time and money to visit us or to come watch our kids or whatever are also great ways to do this. But these are just a few of the biggest and most dramatic ways of staying close. Driving up to Sunday dinner at Mom and Dad's, random phone calls, emails, quick replies to emails, text messages, Facebook/Instagram comments, FaceTime messages, birthday cards, attending cousin's sports games, and a hundred other things also help us stay close and are important too. Some of these require physical proximity. Many of them, thanks to technology we all have available to us, do not. 

There are a lot of factors that we are weighing as we consider where to move next. I think we could very well end up in Utah and I think it is also possible that we won't. Like dad encouraged, a lot of it will depend on what we feel like the Lord wants us to do (not sure about that yet) and if He feels that we have accomplished what He needed us here for. But regardless of what we do next, I know we all agree that these relationships with each other are worth fighting for. We can't wait for DisneyWorld and we love hearing that y'all are getting together so often and staying close by so many in-person visits. We are cheering you on to keep that going from here. At the same time, we hope that we can continue to prioritize and even to recommit ourselves to doing some of the other things that will help us stay close. I hope I'm not sounding preachy or anything, because I really am preaching to myself more than anyone else. (It's like a take on that old thing you'd hear in seminary: "If you don't feel as close to God as you did yesterday, who moved?" where you replace "God" with "your family".) 

I just want to thank you all for all that you do of these things, and to commit myself to trying harder. Like Kristi said, the question for today doesn't have to be where we are going to spend the rest of our lives--it can just be what color of paint to pick for the family room. I'm a big believer that walking by faith usually happens one step at a time and that's what we'll have to accept for now. But I do hope you know that we do love you and miss you like crazy, and that we feel your love and prayers from afar as well. Thanks for making this such a great family to be a part of!

Love,

Blaine

P.S. Nick, I have to say that your resume question definitely fits under the category of things that can be discussed without physical proximity being a requirement. I would always love to get a phone call from you about something like that. Not that my advice would be as good as Dad's was even if you had called--incidentally, I think his instinct on that is spot on and a great way to go. Good luck! :)

 

On Mon, Feb 22, 2016 at 8:48 AM, bret bassett <bretbassett@gmail.com> wrote:

Nick, correct the error, print it off and take it with you.  If it comes up, you can hand em the updated resume and laugh about it.  But other than that, I wouldn't say a word.

Good luck.

On Sun, Feb 21, 2016 at 10:53 PM Warner Nielsen <bwn888@gmail.com> wrote:

And only 50 shades of grey?

On Sunday, February 21, 2016, Kristi Bassett <kristi.bassett@gmail.com> wrote:

Okay, I'm going to have to side with whoever has watched more episodes of Fixer-Upper, fess up, is it Nick or Janey? ;) haha. 

Our realtor recommended a more neutral color (but nick in the house we live in I'm definitely going for your recommendations ;), but Jane, I was at Home Depot and there were about 50,000 shades of white 😱

On Feb 21, 2016, at 10:24 PM, Janey Nielsen <janeybassett@gmail.com> wrote:

I think I'd stick with white paint.....or something along those lines. 

On Sunday, February 21, 2016, Janey Nielsen <janeybassett@gmail.com> wrote:

Perfect way to face tough decisions and times in life....take it one day at a time and learn all you can. I remember a couple months after coming home from my mission thinking "I wish it was two years from now, because I know that "time" is the best way to heal from this and maybe then I'll understand why everything happened the way it did." And while time did help ease the pain, I didn't (and still don't) have all the answers of why things happened as they did. However, I still have experiences in my life where I feel like something from that "mission experience" taught me better how to handle a situation now. 

You may not completely understand why you went to Texas, but it sounds like you're learning and growing and taking it one day at a time. 

  I love you guys and wish you luck in all your decisions. And hopefully whatever you decide, you can be happy and feel peace! 

Love, Janey

On Sunday, February 21, 2016, Kristi Bassett <kristi.bassett@gmail.com> wrote:

Dad, you are so sweet, and we were all touched by our conversation.  I don't think either of us was able to express what we feel very well. It's hard to explain to someone else in a few minutes something that you spend hours and hours thinking and talking about each week (if not each day!). We always do appreciate your love and wisdom! And appreciate your patience as we try to condense our thoughts into a brief conversation. 

It is hard to be far away and know we are missing out on so much. I was telling Blaine the other day how frustrating it has been that I've been in Texas for most of my kids' first years. Tess is SO cute and is so fun and it is heartbreaking knowing that you guys don't get to see it and to know her personality as it is right now. It's really hard. And I miss being there to watch Griff and Bret and clay and Ned grow- and to meet Ashley and on and on. 

At the same time we are learning and growing and doing things that we wouldn't be if we were still there. I know our family is benefitting from this experience.

Where to go from here? I don't know. This is one of those years...one of the ones with too many decisions to make and to many things to do that when I think about it all I just want to hide in my closet and eat cookies :) 

The last year I had like that (2014-- with a birth, surgery, finals, the bar, a move, a new job- all in one summer), the way I coped was to just think --- I know that I will wake up one day in mid September... By then I will have had a baby, Blaine will have taken the bars, we will have chosen a house and packed up and moved and unpacked, and I'll wake up that September day and everything will be done, so until then I'll chug along and make decisions on a day to day basis that will get me there. 

That's how I feel this year too. I want to hide, but instead I'll do my best each day and hopefully by the end of summer our house will be sold, decisions will be made, and I'll wake up somewhere (here, or Utah, or maybe Kauai ;) and it will be the right place- so long as I do my best to make my best decisions on a day to day basis. I'm not going to choose where to move tomorrow. Tomorrow I'm going to choose the color of paint to paint our round rock house. It's the best I can do tomorrow, and it's enough. 

We sure appreciate the love and the conversation, we are grateful that we get to be a part of this family no matter where we live- and we can't wait to see y'all in Disney!

Much love!

Love,

Kris 

On Feb 21, 2016, at 6:30 PM, bret bassett <bretbassett@gmail.com> wrote:

Just got off the phone with Blaine where I told he and his family how much we love them and miss them at our family dinners each week.  It's so fun to see Griffeth take his first steps, and see the 3 boys get ready for their little sister to arrive in the world.  And I feel bad that I am not having those same experiences with Ben and Tess and Ivy and Gwen.  And when I tried to tell them how I felt, it all came out all blubbery and tear soaked.  

So first my apology to Blaine and Kristi.  I am not really all that crippled emotionally that I'm going to die without you close.  I get that there are famililes that hate each other even though they are right next door.  And those who are super loving and loyal and close even though they are far far away.

I guess the best I can say, is do what the Lord tells you to do.  We'll do the same, and we'll both be just fine.  I do think that the Lord put you there for an as-yet-undetermined reason.   (Unless the reason was to learn that Big Law was not where he wanted you to work)   So I promise we will not judge if you come or don't come.  

Just know that we love and miss you and can't wait for disneyworld.

I'm becoming worse and worse at writing... probably because I am on emails a lot of my work day.  I'll try and do better.

Loves.

Dad

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