I feel like I am making my ancestors proud. On both sides of my family, my ancestors seemed to have an extra love for Hawaii and their culture and traditions.
In the Winder family, Great-Grandpa (or “Gramp’s” as I think they called him) loved Hawaii. My mother was just slightly spoiled and was taken there a number of times as a teenager. Carrying on the tradition, Grandpa Ned took his posterity there long ago when they were young.
I feel like my love for Hawaii comes even stronger on the Bassett (specifically Remington) side of the family. Great Grandpa Remington died doing something he had always dreamed of doing- catching a Marlin in Hawaii. I could just feel Great Grandma Remington’s love for Hawaii; I can almost hear her singing some Hawaiian lullaby. In fact, I think it would be safe to say that she taught me the “Hukilau.” When I graduated from Highschool, Grandma Bassett bought me a lei and as she placed it around my neck she said, “this is from Grandma Remington, she loved Hawaii and would have wanted you to have one of these.” And of course Grandma Bassett showed her Hawaiian pride by making the Ukulele a part of every sing-a-long.
Well, I was lucky enough to marry into a part Hawaiian family, and this past week I was FULLY introduced into the culture…and I loved every minute of it!
Warner’s grandpa on his Mom’s side (we called him Papa) passed away a few weeks ago near Seattle, WA. All of Warner’s family were able to go up to be there with that side of the family and to be there for the funeral. Although I was able to meet Papa and Tutu one time before, it was very brief, Papa was very sick, and Warner and I had just started dating (thus the whole experience was kind of a “deer in headlights” kind of thing.) I gained a whole new appreciation and love for this lady and Warner’s family.
Our 3 days with Tutu and a few of Warner’s aunts and uncles was filled with TONS of laughter (Hawaiian women can laugh), yummy Hawaiin food (no pig over a fire though….hopefully someday), and lots of singing and dancing. Warner’s siblings kept coming up to me and saying “you are going to get fully introduced into Hawaiian culture this week,” and they would say it to me as if they weren’t sure if I could handle it. What they didn’t know, was that it was only slightly different than hanging out at Grandma Bassett’s house. Grandma B is almost a Hawaiian herself!
A few of the highlights of the weekend:
· Seeing Warner’s mom with her two sisters and Tutu laughing about anything and everything!
· Listening/singing (more listening for me as I don’t know how to speak Hawaiian) to beautiful Hawaiian songs
· Hearing Warner and his sibling’s do a beautiful job singing “White Sandy Beach” by Israel Kamakawiwo’ole (ya know…the big fat Hawaiian guy with a beautiful voice) at the funeral.
· Wearing a Muumuu to the funeral. It’s Hawaiian tradition for women to wear Muummuu’s and men to wear an Aloha shirt. I used a Muumuu that my mom had bought in Hawaii when she was a teenager. It had some crazy bright colors going on, but all of Warner’s aunts complemented me on it and thought it was beautiful.
· Warner’s Aunts who were absolutely hilarious (Rosey, I told someone in Warner’s family that I wish so much you could have been there to just watch them with me….you would have gotten such a kick out of everything)
· Holding Tutu’s hand while Warner gave the family prayer before the funeral started. I don’t know how I was the lucky one who got to sit by Tutu and hold her hand, but it was something I won’t forget! I felt so special and singled out.
· The YUMMY Hawaiian food that Warner’s brother prepared.
· Seeing Tutu (who is an 87 year old thin little woman) stand up and sing and do the hula (this lady can still move! You would never guess she was that old)
· Have I mentioned Warner’s aunts? They were hilarious! Not only did they get up and sing, but these ladies DANCED too! When they were singing, it reminded me a lot of how my Bassett Auntey’s love to sing!
· When we were saying goodbye to Tutu before we came home, she gave each of the great grandkids a peacock feather. It was Grandma Bassett all over again and I loved it.
So you see, I was practically raised Hawaiian and have topped it all off by marrying a Hawaiian! Tutu is half Hawaiian and half Korean. She is an amazing lady and I hope we can carry on some of those Hawaiian traditions. I need to start learning those Hawaiian songs and getting a little spring to my dance step. I really feel like I gained a new love for family, culture, and traditions!
Hopefully I’ll get pictures out soon. My camera died the first day and I kept forgetting to get it charged!
Love,
Janey
